How To Turn Your Day (And Your Life) Around With Self Care

You know the feeling. That pit in your stomach and that wave of paralysis from depression that makes it feel almost impossible to do anything. When you really need to feel better, it’s important to have a few things you like to do that can count as self care. That way, you can cheer yourself up and get things done.

Now, I’m not talking about boring self care like washing your hair. While that’s extremely important as well, it’s nice to have things you can always turn to that won’t just help you get by, but will help you actually turn your day around! Disclaimer** I am fully aware that some days, doing these things just is not possible. I’ve been there. This blog post is for the days when you might not be feeling like yourself and you need a pick me up that’s a healthy way to deal with what you’re feeling. This is not for the really bad days. I will address those days in another post.

My “happy day” self care can look like a few different things. I personally love beauty products. So sometimes, I’ll throw on my favorite throwback playlist and break out my selection of face masks. I like to multi-mask, so I’ll do a charcoal one on my t-zone and a moisturizing one on the rest of my face. I’ll paint my toenails while the mask dries, and then exfoliate my face when it’s time to wash the mask off. Then I go through my whole skincare routine and my skin will feel soooo smooth. It’s those little things that make me happy.

On other days, I love a good candlelit yoga class or some guided meditation at home on my Calm app. Sometime self care isn’t so glamorous and that’s fine too! If I’m feeling like I really need tranquility in my life, I’m a huge fan of throwing on my comfiest leggings, getting my yoga and meditation done, and drinking some lemon ginger tea. Yogi makes a great, affordable one. Then I’ll take a quick shower and watch a movie with a (preferably) healthy snack. But ice cream’s good too, you guys!

But my favorite outlet as of late is blogging. Whether it’s on my Instagram or here on this page, I love writing out posts and captions and editing photos. It’s such a great release and it makes me feel like I’m accomplishing something. Blogging also keeps me busy, which keeps me from binge eating. Unfortunately, I have suffered from binge eating disorder for many years, and the binges would usually happen when I was stressed out or upset without anything to do about it.

Healthy outlets have really helped me to keep my eating in check, and I haven’t had a bad bingeing episode in over a year now. Now that I’ve learned how to replace bad habits with positive ones, I’m so much better off. If you’d like to hear more about my journey with an eating disorder, let me know in the comments!

All of the self care options I mentioned make me feel like I’ve gotten something done for the day, no matter how small it may be. And that is so rewarding. We all want to feel good about ourselves and like we have a purpose in this world. Whatever makes you feel good, go for it. I believe in you guys and I know that many of you will take your self care hobbies, change your mood, and get out there in the world and kill it with whatever you want to do. It all starts with YOU and how YOU feel about yourself. If you can take these small actions to feel great about yourself, you can do anything.

Bipolar and Relationships: Why They’re Totally Worth It

When I was younger, I never thought  I’d get married. I was fiercely independent and it never really crossed my mind. But when I met my boyfriend at 16 (we started dating when  I turned 20,) everything changed.

All of a sudden, life was like a fairytale, and it still is, two and a half years after we started dating. But that’s not to say it isn’t difficult. When I was 19, I was diagnosed with Bipolar II disorder. Everything was turned upside down. And only a short year later, we began our relationship after four years of friendship. It’s never been easy, but it’s been so amazing, wonderful, and absolutely worth it.

My mood swings can make things difficult. Even with daily medication and constant work on bettering myself and my life, I still have bad days. I can be snappy and just downright mean. I take it out on my boyfriend even though I don’t mean to and I love him very much. It just sort of happens.

But luckily, he is the right person for me, and he loves me through it. Through all of the crying and anger and irritability, the hypomania and the extreme depression that comes along with having this condition. He keeps me in check and lets me know when its time to go back to therapy. He always asks me if I’ve taken my meds even though I almost never forget. It’s so nice to see how much he cares.

It’s a lot of work for both us, I won’t lie. We both have to manage our emotions to not get too upset with each other when I have an episode. It’s pretty rare these days that we fight because of my bipolar disorder, but it wasn’t always that way. In the beginning, I still didn’t know how much was appropriate to drink on my meds. I was still seeing a bad therapist. I was still getting used to being in a serious relationship! I was a lot to handle.

But, as we’ve grown together, things have become more manageable and we love each other now more than ever. I’m extremely lucky to have someone who is this supportive and caring as my partner in crime, but at the same time, I wouldn’t allow anything less.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that even though we may be emotionally at a disadvantage sometimes because of our illnesses, we are still utterly and completely worthy of love. I would never be in a relationship with someone who didn’t support me. I’d rather be alone forever. But there are people out there who will love you so hard for just who you are. So if you’re bipolar, or even if you’re dealing with a different illness, don’t think for a second that you won’t find someone that’s perfect for you (if that’s what you want.) If you see yourself in a relationship, but haven’t quite gotten there yet, don’t blame your illness. You are perfectly imperfect, and someone amazing will one day be lucky to have you.

And if you are in a relationship, make sure it’s a good one. I’ve learned over my years of dating all the wrong people that not everyone will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Never compromise your life for someone who doesn’t deserve you. Your illness does not make you less worthy of love than someone who maybe doesn’t deal with mental health problems.

I’ll leave it at this. “We accept the love we think we deserve.” I bet you all know that line from The Perks of Being a Wallflower. It’s cheesy, but I love it and it’s always stuck with me. Know your worth, stick up for yourself, and love fiercely. When the right person comes along, you’ll know.

xoxo

Welcome To The Bipolar Blog!

I’m so happy you’re here!

“You’re only given a little spark of madness. You musn’t lose it.” -Robin Williams

I have been wanting to create a mental health blog FOREVER, but I was so scared to get started. Scared of judgement, scared of failure, and scared of what everyone would think. But today, I decided to throw it all out the window and just do it.

I mean, why not? I’m always talking about how mental illness is nothing to be ashamed of. We shouldn’t be hiding, we should be spreading awareness and loving ourselves. So, here I am, practicing what I preach.

I want to thank each and every one of you who follow my Instagram page, (@thebipolarbabe) who gave me the push I needed to do this. You’ve supported my posts from day one, and have even given me some great blog topics that I’m so excited to get started on. You’ve made a huge difference in my world, and now I want to get out there and make a difference too.

That’s all I’m trying to do with this blog…just make people feel less alone. I only know of one or two other blogs about mental illness, can you believe that? In the world of a million beauty, fashion, and lifestyle blogs, we are so lacking in this area! And so, I give you, The Bipolar Blog.

I plan to start posting once a week and seeing how that goes, but I’d love to even post twice if I can. We’ll see what my schedule allows.

So that’s it for my first post! The coming posts will likely be longer, I just wanted to get on here and say “Hi!” before getting into the super deep topics.

See you all soon!!!